“That’s just my baby daddy.” My baby mama get on my nerve.” How many times have you heard someone say these words? It seems like everyday, more and more people are becoming baby mama’s and baby daddy’s, instead of husbands and wives.
Now I understand that everyone makes mistakes and deserve a second chance. There are even those extreme instances where people get raped, and are forced into the life of single parenthood. These are the situations that cannot be helped, and put both the mother and child in very uncomfortable situations. But what about those people who constantly keep making those same mistakes? You keep getting pregnant by that same man who was no good to begin with. You keep making babies with that same woman who you would not give your last name to. Why?
People like Kourtney Kardashian really amaze me. It’s like she has been with her boyfriend Scott for all these years, has two babies, and still have no plans on getting married. Now maybe it’s just me, but I just could not see myself keep getting knocked up by some man, that I want to break up with every other day. Why? Children deserve to be raised by two parents who love each other. Now I understand that situations happen and things just don’t work out. My parents were married for some time before they got divorced, and even though their marriage didn’t work, my father was and still is a great father. I guess people feel like having a baby will change their relationship or make it better. Most times that usually ends the relationship because, with the extra stress of having a baby, on top of the existent problems, it is too much to handle. The next time you decide to have sex with someone, ask yourself would you want this person to be the father/mother of your kids and husband/wife?
Think about it…
“Some people treat Jesus like a sugardaddy.” This is the phrase that my stepdad said as we got ready to leave the house, this Christmas morning. When I first heard these words, I kind of laughed, but when I actually thought about it, I realized how much sense it makes.
Many of us use the Lord’s name in vain. We call on him when we are at our lowest, or need a passing grade on a test. Why can’t we call on Him when we are at our highest? Why can’t God be apart of our everyday lives. This is something that I am guilty of myself. Even to this day I still struggle with making time for God’s word. I am trying to make a conscious effort to attempt to talk to Him everyday. It seems like nowadays, as a society we only call on God when there has been a tragedy or when we need financial help. And then if our prayers aren’t answered, we blame it on God as if He did something wrong. Sometimes I wonder if He allows certain tragedies and events to happen to try and get a message through to us.
Another thing I don’t understand is how people blame God for their current situation. People will put themselves in certain situations and then wonder why they can’t get out of them. What are you doing to change your current situation. It’s like we want to call His name for help and then sit back and do the same thing we have always done. How do you expect the Lord to help you if you are not helping yourself? The next time you think about blaming God for something ask yourself “What did I do to put myself in this situation?”
Think About It…
So obviously if you are reading this that means that you lived past what was suppose to be, the end of the world. According to the Mayan calendar, the world was suppose to end on 12/21/2012. Now the only reasoning … Continue reading →
With Christmas only a few days away, I’m sure many of you are getting those last minute presents for family members, or decorating the tree. All of those things have been tradition since before I was born. Now although I love getting presents and spending time with family, I feel like people tend to forget what this holiday is really all about.
I went to church last week, and the pastor spoke about this very subject. He talked about how people have made Christmas their birthday instead of it being about Jesus. While I sat listening to the sermon, I realized how true his words were. Society has brainwashed us into thinking that we have to give and receive gifts on Christmas. If a child does not get anything under the tree, they feel bad or may even have their friends talk down about them. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that gift giving is wrong. I still get excited when my mom hands me a wrapped package on Christmas morning! But as the pastor said in the sermon, we need to put the Christ back in Christmas.
Christmas is now replaced with Xmas, or just the holidays. It’s like we just use this time for parties, celebrations, and spending money. I am also guilty of not upholding the Christmas standard, but after listening to that sermon, it really made me think about making a conscious effort to be better. Christ is the reason we even have a Christmas in the first place. Some people may even say that December 25 was not his actual birthday, but at the end of the day, this is the time that we celebrate his birth. The next time you want to get upset about not receiving that favorite toy, or any other gift, think about the best gift you have and will ever receive…Jesus Christ!
How many of you have had your heart broken? How many of you had a friend betray you? What about having someone you thought was your friend, secretly plotting against you? In life, we are faced with situations and people who try us in more ways than one. People will use, abuse, mistreat, and do all sorts of things to piss you off. As human beings, it is natural for us to feel hatred, and animosity towards people that do us wrong. We may even give them the old fashioned silent treatment.
I have had my share of experiences, where I have had to learn how to forgive. People that I thought were close to me proved to be “snakes” as I call them. Now for a minute, I held a bit of animosity towards these people. I thought that ignoring or giving the silent treatment was the answer. After a while I realized that it just was not worth it. It’s like the Lord was talking to me, teaching me how to forgive. I then begin to slowly start to accept the fact that in life, God will put people in our life as lessons. One of those lessons is the act of forgiveness.
Forgiveness will help you get through life, and feel better about yourself when going through situations. If Jesus can forgive us for all of our many sins, why can’t we forgive our neighbors? Think about it….
Mass school shooting killing almost 30 people, most of which were children. This is the news that I heard while at work today. What is this world coming to? What could possess someone to walk into an elementary school and kill all those innocent children and staff. The fact that these were young children blocks out all thoughts of bullying. I can’t imagine a 20 year old being pushed around by a 5 year old. This is just sick. And the sad thing about all these mass shootings is that the killer usually ends up killing themselves. What type of a coward move is that?! So you were bold enough to walk in this public place and take all those lives, but not bold enough to face your reality. God Bless their soul wherever it may rest, but I’m pretty sure it won’t be in heaven. These children will never get to live life, grow old, and enjoy the world like this coward did. And these teachers will never get to go home and kiss their family, or teach another class ever again.
I can’t imagine how the families of the victims feel right now. It’s like no where in the world is safe now. Not the mall, movies, school, work, what next church? It is really a shame that people have to fear for their lives, but maybe this is another sign that we are living in the last days. I guess the only thing we can do is pray and ask the Lord to watch and guide us…
With the holidays coming up, I’m sure many of you will be attending different office parties, birthday parties, and all types of other celebrations. You probably have even brought the perfect outfit for the occasion (or so you thought), with plans on pulling that sexy co-worker of yours that you have been making eyes with all year. Well before you go outside thinking that you are the best thing since sliced bread, maybe you should re-evaluate yourself in front of a mirror. If you are contemplating on changing into a new outfit, ask yourself these questions: 1) “Is my dress so tight that every roll on my body is attempting to rip through the seams?” 2) Are my pants sagging so low that everyone behind me knows what color the horse on my drawers is?” 3) “Do I need to redo my hairstyle so that the whole world will not see every track sewn into my head?” If you answered yes to any of these questions, TRY AGAIN! It is not cute for a women to have on clot
hes that are three sizes too small. If you have to do all that to get a man and attention, then maybe you just aren’t as fabulous as you think! And for all the males out there, you are too old to be sagging your pants. BUY A BELT, OR PANTS THAT FIT! Maybe if you knew the origin of that, you would think twice before you came out the house like that. Remember, it is ok to ask for help. When me and my friends would get ready to go out we would make sure that we all looked to part, before we left the house, or we would be quick to tell each other, you look a mess.
Now being ratchet does not just have to do with the way you dress. Your actions play a big part in how people perceive. Don’t be that person that always at the club starting fights with everybody , or ready to tell someone off because they stepped on your shoes. That is not cool in any shape, way or form. Especially when you are someone that people around you may look up to. STOP THE MADNESS! Just because because this person called you out of your name does not mean that you have to be ready to throw hands. It is ok to just let some things. Now if someone puts their hands on you, that is a different story, but if not, LET IT GO. You should not want to be perceived around campus, your job, or anywhere as that boy, or that girl that always getting into it with other people. That is how people loose friends! That is also not a good look for you professionally. Believe it or not, no matter how much you try and hide it, your past will catch up with you. REMEMBER, THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK AND ACT! Your actions, not only affect you, but those around you. The next time you find yourself about to get into one of those “ratchet” situations, ask yourself “Is this something that I would be proud of tomorrow, next month, or even next year?” Think About It…
How many of you have said to yourself ” I am tired of this class, I don’t even need it to graduate.” What about ” It is people that didn’t even go to college that are making lots of money.” With so many different careers to choose from, and paths to take in life, you may find yourself asking “Do I really need to go to college?” I honestly don’t think that there is a right or wrong answer to that question. Although I just graduated, there were times when I was still in college where I would wonder what will my career would be post graduation, and will it even be in something that I majored in. There are many people who go to college and major in one thing, and graduate and end up doing something totally different from what they thought. Then its like that person has waisted all that time, and most of all MONEY, in school for nothing.
It seems like every time we look around, there is always someone becoming famous because of a YouTube video that went viral, or a sex tape that just so happen to leak. When we look at things like this it causes us to wonder if we could just skip school and get rich from a “gimmick” , or any other “get rich quick scheme” , that would make us financially stable for the rest of our lives. Even after I graduated I still wondered was it work it. After 5 years in college, and a Sales and marketing degree, I now have to pay back Sallie Mae and all the other men and women who loaned me thru college. I look at people like Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates (who became billionaires at young ages without finishing college), and wonder why I couldn’t have been brilliant enough to become a billionaire by the age of 23!
Now on the contrary to all of this thinking, I realize that had I not attended and graduated from college, I would not have met such wonderful people, joined two organizations, and formed the relationships that I did. College was a time of making lifelong friendships, experiences and most of all growth. I am definitely not the same person that I was 5 years ago. I feel as though graduating gave the feeling of accomplishment, and completion. I started something that was tedious, tiring, time consuming and a list of other things, but I finished it. Honestly I think even if I was afforded the opportunity of becoming wealthy while attending school, I don’t think I would have done anything differently. I am thankful for all that I have been through and the experiences God has put my way. It has made me a much stronger person and I wouldn’t it any other way.
With the Christmas holiday fast approaching us, I’m sure many of you are still searching for the perfect gift for everyone on your list. And if you are like me, you don’t have a ton of money to spend out in the stores. Some of you may also be working within a budget. Today I will list a few gifts that you can purchase that are under $30. Not I don’t mean a cheap little gift that the recipient will probably throw away the next day, or another towel or pair of socks that you already got last year. I’m talking about some quality, creative, handmade items, that are all handmade and designed by me, and can be purchased directly from my website , sent right to your doorstep. Although I have only listed a few items here, feel free to checkout my wonderful collection of products at www.creationzfromadove.com . Here it goes…. The first item is THIS BEAUTIFUL SAFETY PIN BROOCH that is sold for $10 This particular brooch comes in red and green (perfect for the Christmas holidays), but I can customize using the colors of your choice.
This one is $8 Safety Pin Brooch $10Also $8
BLACK/LEOPARD NECKLACE, EARRINGS BRACELET SET $26
Hand painted wood based earrings $10
Customized Beaded Charm Bracelet (Name and Colors of your Choice) $10
Hand Designed Beaded Wooden Name Necklace (Customized Using Name and Colors of Choice) $16
If you read part 1 of the is article then you know what to expect from part 2. For those of you who may not be familiar, let me just give you a recap. In part 1, I discussed how different our generation is from that of our grandparents when it comes to our sexuality. Girls and women alike have allowed themselves to become sexual objects to men, while males continue to get thrills out of having multiple sexual partners. I ended the last article saying RAISE YOU STANDARDS!
As women, we need to expect more from the men that we date. It should take more than a meal to Red Lobster, for him to get you into bed with him. You can’t keep complaining how this person or that does not respect you, when in turn you don’t respect yourself. It is a give and take when it comes to that. How can you expect someone to take you serious when you run around having one night stands, with your business all around town? Now some women may think well “If I keep my business to myself then it is ok, because no one will know what I do.” Honestly just because you don’t tell everyone your business does not mean that the other person won’t. I have come to find out that men seem to talk more than women do, contrary to what people may believe. And aside from the fact of your business not getting out, you should have some pride about yourself as a women. Your goodies should be worth more than a $10 meal, or a good conversation. Let him work for what he wants. Just like in life, we have to work for what we want, and anything that comes easy, probably isn’t worth having.
Now men don’t think you are off the hook. You are just as much guilty as the woman. In our society today, it is not considered cool, for a man to be in a monogamous relationship, and if he is then people call him “whipped.” NO it is called being a man and keeping your woman happy. But of course BOYS will never understand that. Just because a man likes spending time with his girl, and knows how to treat her he has to be “whipped.” Well if that is the case, I think more men need to get “whipped.” There comes a time in your life, when you should want more out of women than a big butt and nice curves. Stop asking yourself what she can do for you, and think about what YOU can do for her. How about being honest, FAITHFUL, and not ashamed to show your love in front of her friends. Maybe even put a ring on it. Now is that too much to ask?